After having 3 daughters compete on the A Circuit, in Hunter/Jumper/Equitation, I am currently sitting in the kitchen of some friends in Haverford, Pa. Tomorrow we will pick up our youngest daughter Lizzie from the airport in Harrisburg for the beginning of the end of Equitation Finals. We've been attending Medal, Maclay, USET, WIHS one, all or a mixture of some since 2004. (Seriously, isn't there an award for the parents who've sat through 11 years of Equitation Finals?!!)
If I'm completely honest, as much of a nervous wreck as I was at the first one in 2004, I'm equally feeling the nerves with this being the FINAL. I always knew there was "next year" and it's such a mixture of feelings knowing this is it as a Junior Rider.
Here is what we've always tried to convey to our daughters:
1) This (riding) doesn't define who you are as a person, it is PART of who you are. We've worked hard to keep a balance in your life and have been fortunate enough to make that happen.
2) Faith: Stay grounded and humble. I'm incredibly thankful that each of you girls have experienced going on mission trips and having a heart for those less fortunate.
3) Family: No matter how crazed someone makes you, we are family. Your family will always be there, through the good and the bad. Friends will come and go but WE, family, are the ones that will help to pick up the pieces or cheer the loudest or cry (mom) when my heart is so proud of you I feel like it will explode!
4) Education: This is something no one can ever take away from you. It might be a pain, you might not want to do the homework, but you need it. Will you have to learn things you might not ever use in your life? Most likely. But it's more than that. It's a growing experience you shouldn't miss out on. You will grow/mature in ways you didn't know you could. I promise!
So as I'm reflecting on this amazing, joyful, painful, emotional, ecstatic, gut- wrenching journey, here is what I want our daughters to know:
Your father and I are so incredibly proud of you!
To Emily: For starting us on this journey. As the firstborn, you were the leader and at times the guinea pig. We learned what we should and shouldn't do in regards to horses. You were the leader in our journey. You graduated from high school and went to the University Of Georgia. You were part of the Equestrian team, you were part of a National Champion team. Was it all roses? Absolutely not. Have you learned valuable lessons? Absolutely. We are incredibly proud of the fact that you were working for Carter's (baby clothes) a month after you graduated from college. The fact that you do Product Development and Sourcing for Little Baby Basics and Carter's seasonal bodysuit pant sets (boys and girls lines) still boggles my mind! We are so proud of you Emily!! Keep moving forward and be true to who you are!
To Sarah: To our middle child who honestly makes us laugh daily. You came into the horses I believe by being the middle child, it seemed like the thing to do. You are cautious by nature and when we started riding with Aaron Vale, you were pushed outside your comfort zone immediately! You never had a desire to do Jumpers and went on to win the NAL Jumper Classic
http://www.barnmice.com/profiles/blogs/sarah-van-der-walde-won-the-10-000-north-american-league-children
https://youtu.be/_zAjeRFWAYA
You will jokingly say this is where you peaked and it was all downhill from there. While this was a peak moment for you, you pushed through other not so comfortable times. You, by your choice, made the decision to not compete in your last Junior year. You were accepted into the University of Michigan and chose to pursue the next chapter of your life there. While this didn't include the competitiveness of the Equestrian world, you have embraced being in a sorority, Kappa Kappa Gamma. You are now a Junior in the School of Information, hoping to have a Minor in German and Applied Statistics.... You amaze us!
To Lizzie: The baby of the family and in all honesty, the one who benefited the most when it comes to riding. You started this riding journey when you were 3. Some will say that you are naturally talented at this. We still say, family, faith and education before this. Your high school education and riding is what had you being a top recruit in riding in college. While there were several colleges recruiting you, you had your heart set on one, the University of South Carolina. As it turned out, by chance, they were your last college visit. While others offered you more in scholarship, you knew that South Carolina was where you belonged. As your parents, we couldn't agree more.
As you are finishing the end of your last Junior year, remember this. Remember who you are and where you come from. Remember that you are an amazing person and you have an incredible journey ahead of you. Listen to those that are giving you advice and constructive criticism. Enjoy this journey!! Do your very best and be happy with it!
In the end, we love each of you for where you are and we are your biggest cheerleaders!
As your mom, I will continue to cry at the drop of a hat. I am your biggest fan and your worst critic, but in the end, I will always love you.
Mom
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